If you ask ten different people about what’s in NLP, they’ll give you ten different answers. To be sure, there’s lots of stuff to learn in NLP. But what do the experts regard as the most important part of it? What do they recommend to learn if you’ve only got a limited time and a […]
The Map Is Not The Territory
That’s probably one of the most common “truisms” of NLP. (they call this a presupposition of NLP). Now, this wasn’t invented by anybody in NLP, and for that matter, NLP wasn’t “invented” either. It’s just a collection of extremely useful communication strategies that have been used effectively by some of the most natural persuaders of […]
Storytelling Secrets
Once upon a time, there was this guy. He had a very important message. It was one that, while important, wasn’t easy to accept by a lot of people. See, he knew that most people won’t listen to something unless it already meshes with what they think they know already. He knew that most people […]
Conquer ALL Enemies With NLP
My first NLP training I went to years ago, the trainer would close every day with an “incantation,” which was a tightly packed, multi-looped hypnotic story that was supposed to “install” what we’d learned that day. Then the next day, he asked us if we had any strange dreams. I recalled a dream I had […]
How To Destroy Fear
Have you got a fear or phobia you want to get rid of? I’ve got just the ticket. Even if you don’t it’s handy to learn this, as it can come in fantastically handy at parties. Most people think that getting rid of some deep fear from childhood takes thousands of dollars and years of […]
How To Persuade Anybody
Do you like salespeople? Most people don’t. When people think of salespeople, they usually think of words like “pushy,” or “sleazy,” or “manipulative,” and the list goes on and on. It’s like they study from some secret book of how to manipulate people or something. Why is this? What specific behavior do salespeople exhibit that […]
Sneaky Tricks For Easy Influence
You wanna know a master technique used by politicians to crush it during debates? The good part is it’s totally non-verbal, and will slip right under their radar. The won’t even know what’s going on. They’ll just “feel good” when you want them to, and “feel bad” when you want them to. How would you […]
Are You Out Of Sync?
How’s everything going? Been persuading a lot of people? One thing that’s essential is rapport. Whether you’re asking somebody to buy a $50,000 car or asking your boss if you can leave ten minutes early. Almost everybody’s heard of it. Which means most people immediately think, “Oh, THAT. I already know THAT.” Don’t make that […]
Why Is Six Afraid Of Seven?
I always get a chuckle when I see TV and movie writers using these “reframe” techniques to get a laugh. After all, that’s one of the main ingredients of humor and jokes. Get the mind thinking in one way, and then quickly throw in another meaning for what the listener thought was coming, or what’s […]
Control The Frame – Control The World
Do you have a lot of pictures in your house? With nice picture frames? Most people don’t notice the frames, only the picture. True in conversations as well. Yes, you read that right. Conversations have frames. So do exchanges. So do relationships. And whoever controls the frame, controls the interaction. Frame Control is where it’s […]