When I was a kid I was in Boy Scouts. I really liked Boy Scouts. One of the things they did, we did, that I liked was to go on these backpacking trips. Sometimes for one or two days, sometimes for a week during the summer.
One time during one of these summer trips there was a new kid that had joined just before the backpacking trip had started. He was kind of a bully and I was the target of his bullying behavior.
The term, “pecking order,” actually comes from chickens. When they introduce a new chicken into a group the chickens, they will all peck at each other until they figure out where this new chicken exists in the pecking order.
The very first job interview I had was in high school. The job interview was a place for that would pay me minimum wage. The job interview was at a place that hired a lot of high school and college kids. The job interview was on Friday at 7:30 and so showed up on Friday at 7:30.
I had no idea what to expect because this was my very first job interview. The interview was supposed to be at 7:30 but by 7:45 they hadn’t called my name yet and so I left.
I had friend once who got robbed. Not robbed but someone broke into his house will he was gone and took a lot of his stuff. He is almost certain he knew who did it because about a week before the burglary he had some work done on his cabinets. He is certain, he was certain that someone who did the work on his cabinets either did the burglary themselves or they told their burglar friends about this house that had a lot of cool stuff that didn’t have an alarm.
He was kind of angry when he called the cops. The cops showed up. The cops didn’t seem too concerned about making any effort to find a stuff. They essentially said that it was their job to fill out a report and then give him a copy of the report and give a copy of the report to his insurance company and his insurance company would replace his stuff.
From the cops’ perspective this sounded like the perfectly reasonable solution, but this was unacceptable to this guy. He felt cheated because he paid people to come into his house and fix something and because of that they came back and stole from him. He wasn’t content to just let the insurance company pay for the missing stuff. He wanted to get even with the people that had stolen from him.
I had a friend once who had very very crippling social anxiety. It had slowly built up over time. It wasn’t really because of one type of thing. He was normal in college. Kind of friendly. He wasn’t really extroverted but he didn’t really have any kind of social anxiety.
Slip Slowly Into Social Terror
Then he got a job after college and he worked at this tech company. He spent a lot of time just working on tech problems. He never really had to deal with anyone and he fell into a habit, a very comfortable habit of going to work, working on these tech problems, not talking to anybody, and then going home. Slowly over time he developed a very very strong feeling of social anxiety.
The problem was forced upon him when they wanted to promote him. His new promotion would require talking to a lot of different people. People outside of the company going on business trips giving presentations and this absolutely terrified him.
He felt like he was kind of stuck in a position where he didn’t know what to do. He felt if he refused the promotion they might fire him. If he accepted the promotion he would probably have a nervous breakdown and end up in the nuthouse.
Gotta Fix This
He decided to seek a solution. He went to find a few therapists and he talked to a few therapists and none of them were very helpful. Finally he found this hypnotist online. They talked over Skype a couple of times a week.
This guy seemed very very promising. The first few times they talked, the hypnotist helped him to create this kind of imaginary world. In this imaginary world was his kingdom. A castle and kings and queens and the princesses and the princes and everything in this kingdom was fantastic. The colors were bright. The grass was green. The fields were always ripe the people are always happy.
Underneath this kingdom was hidden system of tunnels, like a labyrinth. In these tunnels were these horrific demons. Once they created this kingdom, the hypnotist would hypnotize them and tell them that once we have established this we need to create some kind of a weapon. It has to be a sword. It can’t be at any type of gun.
All The Way Down
You’re going to need to go down into the basement. You’re going to need to go down beneath the surface and hunt down these demons one by one. Destroy them with your killing sword. I will guide you. You can use my voice to guide you, but this is something you must do. You must go down beneath.
You must go underneath the surface. You must find these demons that are hiding in the dark and destroy them one by one. It will be scary, but it is absolutely necessary. If you do not destroy these demons that are lurking beneath the surface they will eventually destroy the entire kingdom.
The hypnotist helped him for several weeks. They went down to this hidden dark basement and they slowly hunted and killed the demons one by one and once the last demon had been slain, the underground hidden tunnel of quarters turned into an underground very brightly lit library.
Private Resource Library
The hypnotist told him, he said now he said now that you’ve destroyed all these demons that used to live beneath the surface, now every time you go beneath the surface, you have an incredible resource. You have an incredible source of information that you can retreat to and study to and learn from and develop new skills and develop new abilities.
Now that this kingdom has been saved, this is your kingdom that you can retreat to. Above ground, below ground, anytime you want to. This completely transformed this guy. He became much more socially outgoing over the next several years he became an extroverted ladykiller.
He would love to go out to bars in social situations and clubs and just talk to plenty of women and seduce them. He started making a lot more money. He started having a kind of a playboy lifestyle.
Dude, Who Are You?
It was just a fantastic transformation. It took a while. It took several years. The process of going into his basement and killing all the demons that took about three months of consistent work. He said it was terrifying but once he killed the last demon everything changed.
After some contemplation, my friend called a couple of private investigators and explained the situation. He said that he’d been robbed. He said that he was going get a large chunk of insurance money, but he very much wanted to find out who did this and punish them. He told the PIs that if they found the guys, if they sent a warning, if they made of some kind of story about this guy, that he wasn’t a guy to be messed with, and they got his stuff back they could keep all the insurance money.
That’s exactly what these PIs did. They had to be very careful because technically it was still an open investigation, but they found the guy that robbed him. They found the guy that bought the stolen equipment and they sent him a very strong message that this guy was some connected mobster even though he wasn’t. He was just a regular citizen, but this private eye knew a lot of guys. They kind of came up with a believable story and they got this guy stuff back.
You Robbed The Wrong Guy, Pal
The word was sent out to all the burglars do not mess with this guy and the guy that worked on the cabinet resurfacing team was fired and essentially banished from the home development industry.
I didn’t know what to do, so I called the woman that I was supposed to talk to at 7:30 I called her a couple of days later and she actually apologize for being late. I thought she was to yell at me for leaving but she told me to come back.
I went back the second time. She was on time the second time. She asked me a bunch of questions in the interview. I answer them correctly. She gave me a math test. I did fairly well and she hired me. This kind of taught me a very important lesson as a dumb high school kid. That if someone says they’re gonna meet at a certain time and they’re not there, leave.
Gotta Do Something
After about two days I finally had enough of this bully. I needed to do something, but I didn’t know what. We ended up with our sleeping bags right next to each other. He was a kind of bully that wasn’t always an overt bully. He was friendly when everybody was looking, but when it was just private he would do secret quick things to make you understand that he was definitely above you on the social status.
His sleeping bag was right next to mine and he kept messing with me. I was trying to go to sleep and so finally I sat up and I grabbed a gigantic handful of dirt and I threw it into a sleeping bag. I was certain that he was gonna punch me after that. He was a little bit bigger than me but he never ever bothered me again.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.