Easy Tricks To Get Over Your Ex For Good
Congratulations are in order. Why? Because you are reading this, and not some goofy, get your ex back product, of which there are billions. Why are there so many of these? Because it is a common need. A common desire. Starting over with somebody new is terrifying. Meeting somebody new is terrifying.
It’s much easier to convince your ex girlfriend to take you back. After all, if they could take you back, then you wouldn’t have to hit the dating scene again. But since you are reading these very words, you know that is futile. You do, however, have a problem. You want to hit the dating scene, but every time you do, you think about her.
You know that is not the solution. You want to get her out of your mind. The sooner you do so, the sooner you’ll hit the ground running and find somebody else. Lucky for you, there are many ways to do this.
Not A Passive Exercise
This isn’t a passive exercise. You won’t forget about anybody that you once shared emotional and perhaps sexual intimacy with without putting in some effort. On one hand, they say that time heals all wounds. If you just get on with your life, you’ll eventually forget her. And that will help you move into the mind space where you can meet somebody else. But that might take a while. Do you want to wait a while, and let time take it’s sweet, uh, time? No, you do not.
You want to get over her, forget about her, so you can get out there and get some. In this post, you will learn several ways to do this. Some common and familiar, some not so common, but very effective. These will be presented in a certain order, but you can use them in any order you like. If some seem better than others, then by all means. They are only presented in the order they are presented because otherwise the words would all be crammed into one paragraph and it wouldn’t be readable. It would just be silly.
Strategy One – Erase All Visible Traces Of Her
If at all possible, remove any pictures or reminders from her. Erase any pictures of her from your phone, from Facebook, from everywhere. If you need to, download them, put them in a zipped folder and hide them somewhere on a USB. Just keep them somewhere where you won’t accidentally be reminded of her.
Strategy Two – Practice Answering Questions About Her
You might meet friends who ask about her. Before you put yourself in that situation, write down the five or ten worst questions you are terrified of hearing. Then come up with three or four answers for each and practice them until you can say them without giving off any weird vibes. Don’t say anything negative or insulting. Make it sound like it just happened. Like you were walking down the street and piano fell on your foot.
Strategy Three – Practice Seeing Her Happy With Your Worst Enemy
This might seem to contradict the first strategy, but if you run in the same circles, you might see her being happy with somebody you’d rather not see her happy with. Imagine seeing that, and practice feeling neutral. Not happy, not angry, just neutral. Some girls dump guys, but they like the feeling that they can still get an emotional reaction out of the same dumped guys. Understand that seeing her with somebody, even a friend, and reacting as if it’s no big deal may be the worst thing you can do to her.
Strategy Four – Practice Being Bored By Her
It could be that she thinks you had a clean break. Or maybe she wants you to pretend you two had a clean break so she can not feel guilty. She may need you to tell her that it’s OK and you are happy for her, whatever she does. Don’t do that. At least not yet. Maybe some day down the line, you may want to be friends (who knows, she may hook you up with some of her new friends). But for now, imagine seeing her, feeling bored, and needing to find somebody interesting to talk to.
Strategy Five – Obey The Ghost Protocol
Do not contact her. If she contacts you, erase from her from your memory. Make your phone, Facebook and other social media inaccessible to her. Send her emails to you spam folder. If somebody asks about her, act like you can’t remember, or start telling about what happened, and then pretend you have amnesia. Don’t act like you don’t want to talk about it. Act like you can’t even remember what she looks like, or what her name is.
Strategy Six – Rewrite Your Memory Of Her
This is extreme, but when you absolutely, positively want to eject all thoughts of her from your brain, you can perform reconstructive surgery on your memories of her. Come up with five or six memories of her that are not very positive. Expand them. Enhance them. Imagine her without ever using toilet paper. Imagine her spending all your money and buying presents for her other boyfriends. Imagine her using a different name during sex.
Imagine her having a long and secret past as a call girl. Or an assassin. Or a nurse for an evil villain and her job was to help him torture people. These memories are not to be shared, ever. Only for you to use as a go-to set of mental ideas to keep you from thinking of her fondly.
Strategy Seven – Extreme Measures
Use the swish pattern from NLP (learn how here). Imagine her, and then imagine one of Charlie Manson’s killers. Look up pictures of Manson’s female killers as they gleefully walked into and out of court. The same three killers that killed a pregnant woman and cut her baby out of her stomach. Look at the actual pictures online, and then close your eyes and imagine one of the killers is your ex. Only do this if you cannot stop thinking of her in fond ways that keep you from getting out there and meeting somebody new.
Strategy Eight – Replace Her Memory With Real People
The previous techniques all involved eradicating the memory of her from your brain. But nature, as they say, abhors a vacuum. This means that you need to put some other memories on her place. This is pretty easy. (No, not porn!) You don’t need to even date anybody, or even talk to anybody where dating is even an option, but you do need to talk to people. Which people? Any girls that you can talk to, for any reason.
Coffee Shop Girls
Find a few coffee shops in your area, and make a point to start a conversation with the baristas. You aren’t going to get their number, you aren’t even going to flirt with them. All you are going to do is talk to them on a semi-regular basis. So you can start to build some memories of some cute, friendly smiling faces that are looking at you and talking.
If you can afford it, have lunch (not dinner) in a medium range restaurant. Find a few with cute waitresses you can talk to. Again, this is not to pick them up, seduce them, or even get their number. But if you are friendly, they will see you, they will remember you, and they will smile when they do so. Collect as many of these experiences as you can.
Use Online Dating To Your Advantage
This might be ethically questionable, so only do it if you can handle any blowback if you get caught. Create the absolute best online profile you possibly can, pushing the limits of being honest. (We’ll leave it up to you what means exactly!) The point is to NOT date any of these girls. The point is not even to ever meet them. It’s just to get experience talking to other females (either on text or phone) that are talking to you because they are interested in dating you. (Or at least the you you are pretending to be…)
The whole purpose of this is not to con or trick anybody. This is just some activities to prove to you, in a real experiential way, that there really ARE plenty of girls out there. Losing one is no big deal, because they are always plenty more where they came from.
Break Out Of Your Comfort Zone
One thing that will really help is to create some real endorphins by doing things that aren’t socially easy. If you’ve ever felt nervous before approaching a girl, but you approached anyway, even if you get shot down it feels good after the fact. So much that approaching girls after that is much easier.
This is because every time you do something scary, your body produces tons of endorphins. Fear and excitement are very similar emotions. So even when you get shot down, just the endorphins that are flooding your body will make you feel much better than if you just stood there making up excuses why you couldn’t approach.
The quickest way to get an adrenalin rush is to get up and give a speech. Find a local toastmasters, and give a speech on your first day. If you’ve never been to toastmasters, the first speech is easy, at least from a content standpoint. All you gotta do is stand up and give a three minute self-introduction. Just doing this beginners speech, even if you can barely make it through without passing out, will flood your body with enough endorphins that you forget what’s-her-name.
Another activity that produces endorphins is exercise. Any kind of exercise. But if you really want to give yourself a good rush, try jogging. If you jog for at least twenty minutes, you’ll get the famous runner’s high, which is essentially those same endorphins flooding your body. Running on the treadmill at the gym is good, but actually pounding the pavement, or even better a dirt trail (if you can find one) is better.
Make Movement Toward A Goal
If you’ve got any goals of any kind, get moving on them. Forward momentum toward anything that is important to you, that isn’t directly related to your current job will feel good. Study something, stretch your brain, take a cooking class, do anything that is along the lines of self improvement.
Join A Hobby Group
This isn’t to meet anybody, but it’s just more experience that the world is filled with interesting people. Find a hobby you enjoy doing, and find a group that meets regarding that hobby. Even if it’s a pure sausage party, getting and mingling with strangers will build self-confidence and leave that girl’s memory in the dust.
Smile At Attractive Strangers
Whenever possible, smile at anybody that is looking in your direction. Don’t stop and talk, don’t flirt, just smile and keep rolling. Another quick trick to convince your brain the world is filled with plenty of girls, many of whom will happily smile back.
Do As Many Of These As You Can
Forgetting a girl you were once close to is not a passive process. The more you purposely force her memory out of your mind, and replace others with it, the sooner it will happen. If you catch yourself longing for days gone by, snap out it. Go for a run. Hit the local coffee shop and talk to the barista. Make a fake profile, pretend your rich and flirt with gorgeous gold diggers online. Do anything but think about her.
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