A very powerful Cialdini law of influence is one we create ourselves, and operates on ourselves, but outside of our conscious awareness.
Researchers demonstrated this by going into a neighborhood they’d split into two halves.
The first half they went through and asked everybody if they could but a huge, very politically charged sign on their front lawn.
Everybody said no.
Sneaky Second Half
The second half they went through and asked if they could put a very small, very politically neutral sign on their front window.
About half said yes.
One of the unexpected benefits of being a personal trainer to Hollywood stars is most personal trainers end up having sex with their clients.
Since getting in shape for multi million dollar movie roles is critical, the Hollywood stars often live with their personal trainers up until the movie is finished.
All Physical Behaviors Together
They eat together, they exercise together and they sleep at the same time, and eventually together.
When people share a lot of common daily activities, sex can be inevitable.
The bigger problem in modern society comes from our ancient instincts being calibrated.
This is easy with food, and our hunger.
But it also affects all other important areas of our lives.
Love Doesn’t Happen in A Vacuum
For example, when ancient humans fell in love, they thought about each other a long time while they were apart.
The men went hunting, sometimes for days.
There was a lot of social proof on both sides urging them to get together, before they got together.
There was a lot of social proof, on both sides, keeping them together after they got together.
Internal and External
And they couldn’t get together until the man proved his worth as a hunter.
It was a very public attempt to demonstrate that he was worth her love.
Something that not only benefited him, and her, but the tribe in general, since his drive to impress her by killing a very large animal would very much help out the entire tribe.
Generally speaking, anything that starts with a massive public commitment, like killing a big animal to prove your love, will help cement a relationship.
There is a guy who can get inside people’s dreams.
Some say he learned this from his work in the MK Ultra program, others say he studied and practiced somewhere else.
He’s very expensive, but he’s incredibly effective.
Because once this person has established himself inside your dreams, he has a permanent attachment.
First you need so spend a lot of time getting into rapport with your target while they are sleeping.
Then you need to exist simply as a background figure in their dreams.
This can take up to two months.
Once they become familiar with you, as a background figure in their dreams, you can slowly upgrade yourself.
Once you’ve established yourself as a main character, a familiar dream archetype, that’s when you can program them from within the dream state.
Because once you’ve established yourself as this familiar archetype, you can essentially present yourself any way you want.
All of us have a secret archetype that we’d consider our own guardian angel.
For some it’s an actual angel.
For others it’s some kind of spirit guide, that can take many forms.
But once you establish yourself as this archetype in their dreams, you can command them to do anything.
You can essentially slowly and completely drive their behaviors.
Their economic behaviors.
Their physical fitness behaviors.
Their romantic and sexual behaviors.
Even their legal and illegal behaviors.
The best part is you never have to meet your target in real life, this process is completely remote.
Hook Up Is Easy
In modern times, people hook up like we used to.
An initial spark, some scarcity, a little bit of commitment and consistency thrown in.
But what’s missing are the external incentives that kept people together.
Which is why it’s very, very easy to start relationships today, but very difficult to keep them going.
Must Engineer Everything
The only way to do so is to engineer them that way from the beginning.
And make sure you have a lot of shared goals, shared background, and will create a lot of shared experiences.
In the absence of external incentives to stay together, and ever plenty of negative social incentives, you’ll need to maximize your internal incentives.
Of course, once the movie is over, and the actress gets paid, they personal trainer goes off to his next conquest.
But this doesn’t just happen in Hollywood.
Personal trainers tend to be in a situation to much more naturally and organically leverage the ancient triggers required to, at the very least, spark some strong sexual attraction.
A week or so later, they come back and ask the people with the small signs to put up the big sign.
Sure, Why Not?
The one that everybody said no to in the first neighborhood.
But among the people that accepted the small signs, about thirty percent of those accepted the big signs.
With no warm up, nobody would accept the big sign.
But with some small and easy steps taken in that direction, not insignficant number of people eventually accepted the big sign.
Never Ending Persuasion
Which kind of suggests you can pretty much get anybody to do anything.
First, pick a big outcome, that you’d eventually like your target to achieve.
And then figure out as many small steps you’d like them to take in that direction.
Get them going along that path, and let their subconscious instincts do the rest.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.