I’ve been going to these networking meetings recently for the past couple of months. We meet twice a month every, other week. We meet in this bar restaurant place, a different place every every time. Sometimes there’s 15-20 people sometimes there are few as five people there.
Recently I have noticed this one older woman coming. She’s probably in her 70s. She’s very very wealthy. When I first saw her I thought maybe she might be some kind of venture capitalist that is looking for entrepreneurs to invest in.
I started talking to her and I can sort of tell by how she talked about the things she uses references that she had started a lot of her own businesses and she just likes hanging around entrepreneurial type people. I became interested in her back story.
High School Secretary
She said she started out as a secretary when she was in her late teens early 20s, when she had nothing but a high school diploma some private office skills certificate, which meant she could type and file and and do whatever her boss told her do like pick up his cleaning stuff like that.
Her friend, this woman she met at work, convinced her to quit that job and going to business by themselves. Going into business for yourself today is a very very rare thing, imagine doing that 50 years ago as a woman without any kind of college degree that must’ve been a huge risk.
I asked her how did she convince you to do that. She said well she told me she explained about what it means to going to business. She said starting your own business is something that many people would love to have done but very few people are willing to actually do.
Too Scared Too Try
Mainly because they miss-understand what requires and two because they’re very very terrified of doing what needs to be done to start your own business. She explained that the idea of starting your business is so compelling, a lot of people have this idea that they would start their own business if only somebody told them exactly what to do.
They would want to do the behaviors that would lead to starting their own business but they would only start those behaviors if someone demonstrated those behaviors first to prove to them that it was safe.
She explained that these two beliefs are the two main beliefs keeping you from starting on business. Because simply by the law of supply and demand the only way to be really successful and make more money than just an hourly wage is to be able to do things that very few people can do.
If you’re waiting for somebody to tell you what to do there almost certainly tell you what to do that benefits them more than it benefits you. The idea of waiting for some kind of magical person to pop in and explain to you exactly step-by-step how to create the ideal business is impossible.
Please Tell Me What To Do
If anyone is going to tell you exactly what to do that person is going to tell you what to do so your behaviors will benefit them much more than the benefit you. Secondly, in order to figure out what to do to start your business you have to do things that nobody else has done before.
This is impossible from another level, to expect somebody to tell you what those things are these are. Things you have to discover on your own and the only way to do that this is to start to think for yourself. Because you have to think for yourself you have to decide what to do you have to do that without knowing what’s going to happen.
That’s the only way to learn things and by continuously doing that, by taking action by measuring the feedback by being open to all feedback and using that to build into your experience, only then will you eventually get to the level where you’re doing things that no one else knows how to do and only that will get you paid enough.
Comfort Zone Is Low Wages
If you’re expecting to be told what to do, even if you love the idea of starting a business and you believe that I will start my own business as long as somebody tells me exactly what to do, that almost guarantees that you will live a life of low wages without ever making a lot of money.
That’s what this woman explained to her. When she said you have two choices. You can keep doing what you’re doing now and barely make enough money to pay the rent and buy food and eating and go on a vacation every two or three years, or you can leave your comfort zone and do things that are scary in the short term but will build your skills and your knowledge and beliefs in business in the long term so you can eventually be able to do things that nobody else can do.
She said that when she heard that when she heard it put that way she thought of her life as being a secretary and having to follow orders from these men her entire life that was so abhorrent to her that she was willing to take the short-term risks.
Short Term Pain
Eventually it took about a year or two for these two women to go through all kinds of failures and borrowing money and almost going broke and homeless but eventually they learned skills, they learned the ideas, they learned what was needed on the market that wasn’t currently being provided.
Long Term Gain
Once they started to make those things, those services, they started to become very successful. Most of the people at this network meeting networking meeting they kind of all have regular jobs.
They kind of have one foot in the corporate income world and they have another foot in the someday I hope to start my business world. After listening to this woman’s story I can’t help but have this idea that most of them just kind of get together at this networking meeting to only maybe meet friends and hopefully spread their resume.
One Foot In Safety
I don’t think any of them seem to understand what it takes to start your own business. If you are willing to take risks, if you are willing to think for yourself, if you are willing to choose your behaviors yourself and learn on your own it’s almost impossible to not be successful.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.