What is the most charismatic quality a human can have? Congruence. This isn’t what most gurus teach, and it’s certainly not something that’s easy to define, so let’s consider it. Whenever we humans think about something, or do something or talk about something, we are usually of many minds. Meaning we’ve got all these different […]
How To Integrate Your Parts And Respect Your Healthy Fears
There’s a theory in NLP that everybody has all these different “parts.” Most of the time, we’ve got all these parts that are trying to pull us in different directions. One part of us wants to sleep in, for example, another part knows it might feel good to get up early and get some work […]
Use Flexibility Of Meaning To Define Reality On Your Terms
I used to do a lot of backpacking when I was younger. When it was just two or three of us, we did pretty good time. But somehow, as our groups were larger, it took a lot longer to go from point A to point B. Not just backpacking, but any kind of traveling. When […]
Supercharge The Law Of Attraction With Increased Congruence
If you’ve ever tried the law of attraction, you may feel as if it’s some kind of a con. You visualized a stack of money, a new car or a new girlfriend, and nothing happened. Does this mean it doesn’t work? Does this mean all those folks selling Law of Attraction products are selling snake […]
Skyrocket Congruence For Irresistible Persuasion
Congruence is one of the most important things to have when persuading, whether you’re trying to get your partner to go along with your movie choice or closing a multi-billion dollar deal. Yet congruence is hard to measure, though we know who’s got it and who doesn’t. People that are congruent are one hundred pure. […]