Most everybody’s got plenty of hopes, dreams, and wishes. Few of us have goals. Real goals. Why? Because goals require a plan, as well as sacrifice. We only have 24 hours a day, and we only have so many resources. Sadly, most of us don’t have much willpower when it comes to certain things. For […]
Same Or Different?
One of the ways we sort thing is by putting them into categories of “sameness” or “difference.” Let’s say you go to a new restaurant, let’s say an Italian place, that you’ve never been do before. Maybe it just opened up, or maybe you discovered it on a roundabout way home from work. Anyhow, there […]
What Motivates You?
When you think about doing something, from where do you get more motivation? Are you motivated internally or externally? Internally, by your own criteria, and how you’ll judge yourself, or externally, based on the criteria of others and how they’ll judge you? For most of us, we’re a mix of both. Which is better? It […]
An Essential Skill
It’s always good to get an outside perspective. I’m sure you’ve known somebody that has been in some kind of “destructive” relationship, or doing some kind of “destructive” behavior. Everybody but them knows it’s not going to end well. You can talk to them till you’re blue in the face, but they just don’t get […]
How To Destroy Criticism and Judgment
There’s plenty of nifty tools in NLP. One of them is the “meta model.” Whenever humans look out into the world, we never, ever, get the “whole story.” A long time ago, nature had to decide whether a fast, inaccurate brain or a slow, accurate brain was better. All the dudes with slow but accurate […]
The Famous Double Bind
This is a powerful conversational technique that can get you some quick agreement. It was originally “invented” by Milton Erickson, by since it’s found it’s way into pretty much every main stream sales training and it’s pretty standard even on telemarketing scripts. But it ain’t just for sales. You can use it anywhere, anytime, with […]
Sleep Your Problems Away
Dreams are incredible. Some people think that they’re just a jumble of nonsense, like a nightly mental defrag without much meaning. Others say that dreams are when your soul transports to different dimensions and interacts with alien life forms. While these are on wildly different ends of the spectrum, there is plenty of evidence that […]
Tap Instant Genius and Creativity
Here’s another tip on finding those solutions deep within you. You can use this to solve problems, find answers, and even tap into the super conscious to discover the mysteries of the universe. Here’s what you do. Come up with a question you’d like answered. If you’ve got a problem, put it in the form […]
Embrace The Shadow For Less Resistance And More Success
Have you ever heard of something called “cognitive dissonance”? It’s one of those things about human nature that makes us feel “smart” when we understand it, and even “smarter” when we identify it in other people. People on various forums are always pointing out how “other people” are “suffering” from some kind of “cognitive dissonance” […]
Union Negotiations – Integration of Parts For Massive Congruence
You know how when they have those high level negotiations on TV, be it unions or heads of state? The structure is pretty simple. Both sides throw out what they want, and they sort through everything to find out areas where they overlap. In those cases where there’s no overlap whatsoever, negotiations usually stall out. […]