Recently there’s been a very cute girl that started working at my coffee shop, one the coffee shops I go to. She seems to be flirtatious with me, but in this situation is always hard to figure out what to do.
You never quite know if she’s being flirtatious with you because she likes you or if that’s just part of her job. That it’s part of her personality. If she’s being flirtatious with you because she likes you and you ask her out it can be a fantastic thing.
On the other hand if that’s just part of her job, her personality and you ask her out it’ll kind of kill that friendly energy that you can expect are you come to expect by going to the particular coffee shops. Whenever you do find a cute barista that’s being flirtatious, it’s never clear on exactly what to do so.
Never Easy To Choose
No matter what you try, there’s always can be part of you that thinks you should be doing the other thing. So I decided to ask her out and she said yes right away. I thought cool this might be a fantastic relationship. I was actually correct. I guessed that she liked to me. I asked her out and she actually does like me.
I thought this is gonna be a cool relationship. She’s very pretty. Very friendly. Very bubbly and outgoing. Except I was completely and totally wrong.
She told me her story. She told me that she used to live a long ways away. A couple of hours by plane and she was in a relationship with a guy. She absolutely was head over heels in love with this guy. She was certain they are going to get married.
The Perfect Man
He was the perfect catch. He was gorgeous. He had a decent job. He had a very kind personality. He was intelligent. He had wonderful social skills. He was friendly with everybody. The only problem was that she later found out that she had made a lot of assumptions about their relationship.
They never really had the relationship talk where they agreed to only see each other. She just assumed that to be true because that’s what she wanted. It turns out he was never truly faithful to her and from his perspective he didn’t ever say he was going to be. One day he just stopped calling her.
He decided that she was maybe getting too serious. He wanted to cut her off and so he cut her off. She was absolutely devastated. Once he stopped calling her when she started to ignore she talked to all her friends. They said that you just kind of misread the situation. They told her that he was just dating you. He never thought it was serious. It sucks but there’s nothing you can do just let it go.
Refuse To Accept Failure
She didn’t want to let it go. She tried every get your ex back product that she could. None of them worked. She was getting very very desperate. She was still certain that he was the one for her. That he just didn’t know it yet. She felt that if she convinced him how much she truly cared for him he would finally see the light and come back to her.
She was so desperate she looked for alternative sources to get him back. She finally found a witch that claimed 100% success rate in getting exes back and she charged a lot of money. She charged several thousand dollars. She made sure this girl knew exactly what she was doing because she said the spell they’re going to perform was one that you could not reverse.
She had to promise her that she absolutely was certain this was the man for her. In order to do the spell she had to find DNA of this guy. She had to find a few of his hair strands. The witch took his DNA and melted it into a big candle. She took his strands of hair and put them into the wick.
Magic Bedroom Ceremony
They had a ceremony in her bedroom. They had to move her bed because they needed to have the ceremony where most of the passion and the subconscious connection were. They moved her bed aside. About a week before the ceremony the witch gave this girl a long list of spells and she had to memorize them.
When it came time to do the ceremony they sat on her bedroom floor in the spot where they had made love several times. They chanted the spells for an hour while they burned the candle that had his DNA and the wick made from his hair. The ceremony was over in a couple of hours. The witch left. The girl paid her. Two days later he called her he said he was sorry for treating her with disrespect.
He wanted to have a talk about the relationship. This girl was over the moon excited. She was so happy. She was going to finally see her dream come true. For the first couple of months it was fantastic. They were talking about getting married. They were talking about having a family. They were talking about having children.
Wait…I Forgot Something
Then she started to notice that something was missing. She noticed that one of the most important things that gave her butterflies in her stomach was uncertainty. When she was uncertain when he was gonna come over. When she was uncertain when she would hear his knock on her door. When she was uncertain when they would see each other again. When she was uncertain whether or not they would make love the following weekend.
After the spell, all of this uncertainty had vanished. He was present. He was ready. He was there for her 24/7. He texted her several times per day. He called her several times per day. He even got worried when they would sit in a restaurant having a conversation and during normal lulls in the conversation when she would kind of start to daydream, he would get worried that she was thinking about something other than him.
She didn’t even feel safe escaping into her own mind. He would follow her there as well. She realized she could not live like this. The longer they were together the more she couldn’t stand him. The more she needed to get away from him. But even when she started thinking like this he knew something was wrong and he got incredibly needy. He got incredibly worried. He needed her to tell him over and over again that she loved him and that she would never leave him.
Stay Out Of My Brain!
He became incredibly needy and clingy and desperate. She was forced to kind of invent her own custom-built witness protection program. She legally changed her name. She quit her job which was a fantastic career. She deleted all of her social media. She started a completely new life in a completely new city under a completely new name.
That’s why she got the job at the coffee shop because she didn’t have any experience under her new name. She had to start completely from scratch. From her perspective it was worth it to start completely from scratch just to get away from this guy. The reason she was being so flirty and outgoing with me was because she was desperate to rebuild her social circle.
She was essentially being flirty and outgoing with anybody with a pulse. The more she told me her story the more I started to sense a very strong sense of desperation and clinginess from her. She was desperate just restart her life and because she was so desperate to restart her life she was overly interested in almost anyone without any kind of criteria.
Um, I Need To Go…
This gave her a very strong sense of neediness and desperation and clinginess. couldn’t wait to end that date. I will never go back to that coffee shop again.
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