Girl At The Coffee Shop
There’s this really attractive woman that I’ve been flirting with at my local coffee shop for the past couple weeks. Whenever you have a situation like this it’s always not quite sure what to do.
On the one hand it’s nice to have a very friendly face that you talk to and flirt with on a regular basis. But on the other hand inevitably you’ll get a thought in your head that there might be something more here than you realize.
Once you get that thought in your head that there might be something more here than you realize that thought will turn into imaginations and potential ideas of what may happen.
Which Way To Go
The more you interact with this person the more you’ll start to see them through this kind of imaginary frame of mind and so is always a question of what should you do about this.
If you leave things as they are, have a friendly flirtatious person to talk to on a regular basis, this can be a very very good source for a quick confidence boost. On the other hand if you make a move and it turns out to be good that’s fantastic.
On the other hand if you make a move and it doesn’t work and then you’ve lost everything. You can’t really go back to having a normal flirtatious conversation if you try to make a move and close them and it doesn’t work.
Take Your Time And Decide
So I was in the situation for a couple of weeks every time I saw her I wondered if I should just enjoy her as a flirtatious sometime conversation partner or if I should try to escalate this and take this to a higher level.
I decided to escalate and try to take this to a higher level and luckily she said yes but she has a very very interesting way of sorting and qualifying her potential boyfriends.
Apparently she is using the idea that you can tell a lot about somebody’s character based on how they interact with people that they don’t need to be nice too. But she takes this to a little bit higher level. It’s very easy or at least she’s found out that is very easy to fake being nice to people if you know that’s what they’re looking for.
Sorting Is Critical
If you’re going to go out on a date with in a very attractive female and you want to have sex with that attractive female you might pretend to be nice to the waiter even though you’re not normally nice to the waiters because you’ve learned that if you’re friendly with people that you’re around this person they might think you’re a friendly person.
This means you can kind of manipulate them by pretending to be somebody that you’re not. I guess she’s been burned a lot by people like this and so her method of screening people is to take them to her local homeless shelter. Not her local homeless shelter but it’s a homeless shelter that’s run by the church that she goes to.
Her theory is that if she sees people interacting around the homeless that will be a lot harder situation in which to fake a very pleasant attitude. People that don’t really like the homeless people that don’t feel compassion for the homeless, it’s very very hard for them to fake genuine sincerity when they’re around the homeless.
Screening Is Critical
This is her way to screen people and she told me all of this up front. She told me why she wanted our first date to be at the homeless shelter. I said that’s fine. I picked her up we went to the homeless shelter we set up the soup line and we are serving the people.
This one guy came through the soup line and he looked at me like he had something to tell me. I watched him sit down. After he sat down he kind of looked at me and he motioned to the seat across from him at the table. He looked like he was very very depressed.
He looked a little bit different than all of the other homeless people. Most of the other homeless people you could tell the either had some type of mental problem or maybe some type of addiction problems or substance abuse problem. But this guy just seemed to be purely depressed. That seemed to be his main problem.
So Man, What’s Your Story?
I went over and I sat across from him. He said you mind if I tell you my story? I said please, go ahead.
He said that when he was in high school he had a normal social life. When he was in college he had a normal social life. But then when he graduated from college he started to get really focused on building his business. For the next 15 years he built this huge multi-million-dollar business.
But he did so at the expense of his social life. Once his business was kind of up and humming on its own he wanted to kind of step back and slowly hire a bunch of people that run his business for him so he could get back into enjoying a social life. That’s where he made his big problem.
Money At The Expense Of Skills
Because he had such zero social skills, his social skills had atrophied so much, he wasn’t really a good judge of character. The people that he hired and he highed this one woman that was very very attractive very very intelligent she had just gotten her MBA.
Unfortunately for him, she was an absolute vicious sociopath. Over the next two years she absolutely seduced him. Not in a romantic way, not in a sexual way, but in a I’m your friend, I’m your business partner, I want to help you. Because she was so gorgeous and so intelligent and capable of acting so sweetly towards him he did whatever she wanted without really questioning it.
Essentially over two years she slowly, legally stole his company from him. She kept having him sign all kinds of documents. She kept pitching all these ideas. The whole time she was acting so sweet like she wanted to help them but she wanted to support him like she cared about him but it turned out that she was applying this very kind of long con that she came up with on the spot as soon as she saw him.
See An Opportunity – Take It
She saw an opportunity. A very wealthy man with very little social skills who is very very easy to manipulate. Then she manipulated him and after two years she assumed sole ownership of this company. He had nothing. His credit was ruined. His bank account was destroyed. He couldn’t even pay his rent he ended up homeless.
It took about a month to realize what happened. Finally he got the kind of mental capacity back to talk to an attorney. The attorney looked at everything that happened. She looked at all the records and said there’s nothing he could do.
She was so painstakingly forward thinking, that she thought of everything. No matter what kind of legal defense he might come up with, she had already established defenses against that. There was nothing for him to do and after he told me the story I was just devastated.
Sympathetic Disgust And Horror
Just listening to this guy tell me how he spent 15 years building is huge company only to have it stolen by a young attractive vicious sociopath, you hear a story like that it makes you want to stay away from women. You realize that women can be incredibly vicious and they can get away with a lot of viciousness.
The whole time that I was listening to this guy talk, the girl that I came on the date there with was watching me. She was becoming very very attracted to me because she was watching me listen to this guy with massive amounts of compassion. Except I was getting more and more disgusted with women in general.
At the end of the date, when I drove her home she gave me that look and said would you like to come inside. I wanted absolutely nothing to do with her. I know it wasn’t her fault and she had nothing to do with it but I was in a state of mind where I thought females were just these vicious enemies to be avoided.
Terrible Taste In My Brain
It took me about three or four days to come and get out of that mindset, but that was a particularly unexpected story that left a devastating hole in my brain. You can imagine there are many many people that are walking the earth that have the capacity to absolutely and viciously manipulate people and steal their money and do so in a legal way so that they can’t defend themselves.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.