Most guys see a girl, and try and think of the right thing to say, in order to get a certain result. Don’t get me wrong, if you’ve five or six good openers, that are well polished, you’ll do better than most guys. But there’s another way that’s much better. Curiosity. Not hers, yours. Let’s […]
The Nice Guy Myth
Girls hate nice guys and love jerks. Right? Sort of. See, nice guys aren’t really nice guys. They’re “scared” guys. Whenever you’re about to say something, or want to say something, but hold back because you are worried what the other person might think or say, you automatically put yourself in the “nice guy” category. […]
What’s Your Filter?
Every single second there are literally millions of bits of information hitting your senses. How many can your conscious mind perceive? About 40. Bits. That means, that out of all the noise that’s flying around you, all the time, all the sounds, sights, smells, physical sensations, your brain has got to quickly (in about half […]
Magnetic Congruence For Effortless Persuasion
Congruence is one of those vague things that sounds really good, is extremely powerful, but kind of hard to define. Kind of like the Supreme Court defined Pornography a few years ago: “I can’t describe it, but I know it when I see it.” It’s one the reasons that marketing on YouTube is so powerful, […]
Do You Belong?
One hangup that many guys have out in the field is that sinking suspicion that they are doing something “wrong.” Some guys have a voice in there heads that says something like this: “You shouldn’t be doing this. She’s going to get angry. People are going to look at you and think you’re some kind […]
How To Destroy Criticism and Judgment
There’s plenty of nifty tools in NLP. One of them is the “meta model.” Whenever humans look out into the world, we never, ever, get the “whole story.” A long time ago, nature had to decide whether a fast, inaccurate brain or a slow, accurate brain was better. All the dudes with slow but accurate […]
Compared To Whom?
Comparison is essential. We do it all the time without even knowing it. Even sitting there, reading this now, you’re subconscious is busily comparing your state now, including all your thoughts, feelings, etc, to what it might be should you make slight changes in your posture or how you’re sitting. If it comes up with […]
Sleep Your Problems Away
Dreams are incredible. Some people think that they’re just a jumble of nonsense, like a nightly mental defrag without much meaning. Others say that dreams are when your soul transports to different dimensions and interacts with alien life forms. While these are on wildly different ends of the spectrum, there is plenty of evidence that […]
Fire Up Your Brain With These Mind Integration Techniques
We’ve all got two halves to our brain, and each half does different stuff. One half is for logical, structured, step by step thinking. The other half is for creativity, art, “out of the box” thinking. Most of us “lead” with one half or the other. Meaning that whenever we approach a new situation, one […]
Reverse Engineering Genius
Here’s a trick from Win Wenger, author of “The Einstein Factor,” a great book filled with tons of tips on how to increase your creativity, intelligence, and genius power. This requires a complicated issue or problem you’re having. It can be an engineering problem, a personal problem, financial problem. So long as it’s fairly well […]