Most guys let themselves be driven by caveman instincts when out interacting with women. Meaning they figure they’ll just kind of “wing it” when they see a cute girl. Now, if you’re brave enough, and you interact with enough ladies, you can slowly “learn from your mistakes” and consistently get better. But this has a […]
Why Congruence Is The Secret To Irresistible Personal Magnetism
What is the most charismatic quality a human can have? Congruence. This isn’t what most gurus teach, and it’s certainly not something that’s easy to define, so let’s consider it. Whenever we humans think about something, or do something or talk about something, we are usually of many minds. Meaning we’ve got all these different […]
The Inside Secrets Of Language
I saw an interesting lecture the other day, by an economist. The subject was free speech laws and advertising, and what role regulators play. Her angle was kind of unique, in that she had a unique view of what communication is, and what its purpose is. Many people assume that language is purely for transmitting […]
Your Three Part Brain And How To Make Use Of It
Some have said that the measure of civilization is how well we can suppress our instincts. Meaning that we humans are still animals with millions of years of evolution programmed into us. Anytime our species has picked up skills along our long evolutionary past, they old ones aren’t replaced by the new ones. The new […]
Why Language Skills Are The Most Crucial Of All
Having incredible verbal flexibility is one of the surest ways to succeed in life. If you’ve got two guys arguing a point, more often than not, the guy that’s gonna win is not the guy with the greatest idea, or the best idea, or the most prosperous idea. It’s the guy who can present his […]
Use Flexibility Of Meaning To Define Reality On Your Terms
I used to do a lot of backpacking when I was younger. When it was just two or three of us, we did pretty good time. But somehow, as our groups were larger, it took a lot longer to go from point A to point B. Not just backpacking, but any kind of traveling. When […]
The Difference Between Short Term and Long Term Game
When talking about girls, many guys tend to think that “more is better.” Meaning a guy who’s slept with hundreds of women is somehow more knowledgeable or more “game aware” of how females operate. This is a compelling argument. After all, if some guy was giving you pointers, and you KNEW he’d never even kissed […]
The Video Game Model
If you’ve read “The Game,” or have studied Mystery Method, you know that one helpful model is the “video game model.” When used correctly, it can be very helpful. Basically it breaks down like this. In video games, you’ve got different levels. You keep going, until you “win” the game. But if you lose, (or […]
The Power Of Pre Framing
Whenever we talk to somebody, it’s usually with some kind of intention in mind, usually subconscious. You’re talking to your buddies, and you may be having an intention of getting a laugh. You’re talking to a girl, and your intention may be to create enough attraction so she’ll give you her number. You’re talking to […]
Effective Communication Skills Using Congruent Communication
When most us talk, we ignore two crucial elements, both of which can dramatically improve our success. By the time you finish reading this, you’ll not only know what they are, but you’ll know how to implement them so that you’ll easily achieve your outcome. Think about the last conversation you had where the outcome […]