Factory Settings https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/2023/23Jan17_Post.mp3 We all have the same basic fears. One collection comes from evolution. Sudden loud noises. Heights. Sketchy dark places like forests with little visibility. The people who were naturally afraid of these things tended to survive at a higher rate, thereby passing on those same genes. […]
Conversational Superpower
We Are Similar! https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/2023/23Jan12_Post.mp3 One way to “accelerate” the romantic cycle is to purposely find things in common. In fact, some folks, on some dating shows, try to find things as QUICKLY as they can. Like on the first date. And then they say, “Wow, we have a lot in common!” […]
Reciprocal Love
Heaven Or Hell? https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/2023/23Jan08_Post.mp3 Here is an interesting metaphor about heaven and hell. In hell, everybody is sitting in a huge, round room. They’ve all got their backs up against the wall. In the center is a huge pot of delicious smelling food. They have spoons that are long enough to […]
Deliberate Love Generation
When It’s Easy https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/2023/23Jan07_Post.mp3 Imagine this crazy kind of diet plan. You look in the mirror, and promise yourself you’ll get a six pack. But you don’t change your behavior. You just kind of hope for the best. Sure, when you’re feeling it, you exercise. But not every day. […]
Love Exchange
Co Evolution https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/2023/23Jan06_Post.mp3 Adam Smith once described something very important. Paraphrased, it is the butcher the baker and the brewer don’t get up at the crack of dawn because they are concerned about us. They do that to make the best possible stuff, so we’ll pay for it. Little kids are taught […]
They’ll Adore You
Inner or Outer? https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/2023/Jan02_Post.mp3 One common debate among those who study “game” is the use of memorized patterns vs. natural game. Or the idea of inner game vs. outer game. Inner game is confidence, self esteem, etc. The things you can’t see. Whereas outer game is all the things you CAN […]
Plant The Seeds Of Love
What Do They Really Mean? https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar21_Loop.mp4 There are a lot of useful metaphors that have been overused. Not necessarily overused, but used too often without really understanding them. Once I was at Griffith Park observatory in Los Angeles. A buddy of mine and I had just finished watching a Pink Floyd laser […]
The Most Beautiful Sales Pitch
TV Charisma https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar20_Post.mp4 Halt and Catch Fire is a pretty good TV show. It’s a four season show that covers the rise of the PC and the Internet. It’s a fictionalized version, but it’s pretty accurate. The competition for the first PC, then the first couple search engines, then the first browsers. […]
Drop Ambition Breadcrumbs
Five Years? https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar19_Post.mp4 A common question you get in interviews is: Where do you see yourself in five years? I never really liked that question. One, because I never had a five year plan that included the company I was applying for. But mainly because my five year plans are nobody’s […]
Become Everybody’s Fantasy
Two Sides To Everything https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar16_Post.mp4 There are two models to sales. Kind of on two opposite extremes. Both are useful under various situations. First, there’s the numbers game model. Where you spend all your time putting as many cold leads into your sales funnel as possible. This has very little […]