That’s Just What They Want Us To Do Using reverse psychology is a popular way to get people to do what you want, especially if you know they wouldn’t do it if you asked them directly. Since you are not being completely honest, it can be manipulative. If you were being totally honest, you would […]
The Freeloader Problem
Two Sides Of A Deadly Coin Way back in the day, we humans lived in small tribes of a few hundred people. Life was harsh. Getting food was difficult and dangerous. Predators were everywhere, and the food tended to run away. Animals didn’t want to be killed and eaten. Hunter Gather Instincts We humans […]
Attention Grabbing Hacks
Building Response Potential Getting attention from other people is a blessing and a curse. We all want attention but at the same time we are terrified of it. When we want to talk, when we are ready to talk, when we have something we want to say but nobody listens, it can feel terrible. […]
Swish Magic
Take Control Of Your Brain The Swish Pattern is one of the earliest techniques from NLP. It’s based on anchoring, which was discovered by Pavlov. To talk about the swish pattern, we need to talk about anchoring. Unfortunately, both of these very easy techniques (you’ll be able to do both effectively after reading this post) […]
Brainless Human Syndrome
Why Most Of Us Can’t Think Once upon a time a very timid fellow decides to take an ocean cruise. He was very worried, as he’d never been out on the ocean. After the first couple days, he felt brave enough to venture out on the deck. But as luck would have it, as soon […]
Surefire Conversational Skills
How To Get Anybody Feeling Positive In A Hurry One of the reasons we keep ourselves from starting conversations with people is we don’t know what to say. Even if we have a couple of openers, carrying on the conversation is difficult. As soon as we hit one of those uncomfortable silences, both parties start […]
Paradox Of Achievement
Four Minute Mile This is a common story that is told in many forms. It’s commonly uses as a self-help metaphor. An “if you believe it, then you can achieve it,” metaphor. These types of metaphors are used to combat the normal human, “I won’t believe it until I see it” response. Roger Bannister […]
How To Start And Maintain A Conversation With Anybody
Why Social Anxiety Exists Social skills are coveted by many, but they are also the most difficult to practice. This is the problem that keeps many of us from actively improving our social skills. Most of us don’t improve our skills to begin with, since practicing is pretty boring. Many people would love to play […]
How To Develop Presence
Frame And Presence – Same Or Different? If somebody has a strong presence, it’s generally meant to be a good thing. The idea of presence isn’t always associated with personality, or conversational skills. The idea of having a strong presence can be associated with somebody who just walks into a room. What Is Presence? […]
Equilibrium Paradox
How Much Do You Need? Most of us have a curious belief about some big thing that we want. This can either be a thing, a certain amount of money, or even a long range goal. The belief that we hold about this is that once we get that “thing,” whatever it happens to be, […]