The Guy In Charge Said So One of the go-to ways for most of us silly humans to figure out what’s what is to see what somebody in charge says. Study after study shows this. They put ten people in a room, and dump in an unexpected and complicated task. Time after time, people will […]
How To Kill Social Anxiety
Everybody’s Got It There are many truths about humans and human nature. Here are two: All people have social anxiety. All people would like to have less social anxiety. Consider this a given. Many people would like to go out and meet people, but they say, “Yeah, but I have social anxiety!” Unfortunately, some people […]
Paradox Of Achievement
Four Minute Mile This is a common story that is told in many forms. It’s commonly uses as a self-help metaphor. An “if you believe it, then you can achieve it,” metaphor. These types of metaphors are used to combat the normal human, “I won’t believe it until I see it” response. Roger Bannister […]
How To Start And Maintain A Conversation With Anybody
Why Social Anxiety Exists Social skills are coveted by many, but they are also the most difficult to practice. This is the problem that keeps many of us from actively improving our social skills. Most of us don’t improve our skills to begin with, since practicing is pretty boring. Many people would love to play […]
Might Makes Right
Survival Of The Fittest Once upon a time there was no life on Earth. Then something happened (aliens, meteor, lightning, hand of God, etc.) and there was a life form. Maybe a bunch. But they were very simple. They needed to eat, or get some kind of energy from their environment. And for some weird […]
Trade Theory
Exchange Is Everywhere A good model through which to view the human experience is that of trade. As we’ll explore in this post, trade is everywhere. Sometimes partly conscious, sometimes completely subconscious. Sometimes alone, sometimes with others. But we humans are always trading. Basic Human Description One way to describe humans as having unlimited […]
Guru Trap
(To read about the book, The Guru Trap, please click here.) How To Avoid Being Led Astray People love following gurus. The word itself is a religious term meaning “teacher” or “priest.” But it also means the guy people follow in self-development or financial circles. It’s one thing to learn some useful information from […]
Seduction Scams
Why The Seduction Market Will Always Be Hot If you created a time capsule in your back yard, crawled into it and came out 5,000 years into the future, you’d find a lot of things different. Different language. Different monetary system. The people might even look a little different (although 5,000 years is a blink […]
Trial and Error
Modeling Success Is Impossible One of the cornerstones of NLP is modeling. In fact, the entirety of NLP was created through modeling. The linguistic-persuasion aspect was modeled from the top therapists at the time. NLP if often referred to as the “study of excellence.” Which means they find people doing excellent things, copy them, and […]
Should vs Is
The Battle Of Thought Control As humans, one of the things we love to do is come up with ideas about how others should be behaving. People shouldn’t text and drive. People should say thank you. People shouldn’t watch TV past ten PM. Kids should do their homework. Parents should pay more attention to their […]