What To Say When You Talk To Yourself Everybody talks to themselves. Some people do it out loud and often. Full blown conversations. Other people have their self talk so deeply in mind all they notice is the resultant feelings and emotions. The idea of this post is to identify how you talk to yourself, […]
Swish Magic
Take Control Of Your Brain The Swish Pattern is one of the earliest techniques from NLP. It’s based on anchoring, which was discovered by Pavlov. To talk about the swish pattern, we need to talk about anchoring. Unfortunately, both of these very easy techniques (you’ll be able to do both effectively after reading this post) […]
Surefire Conversational Skills
How To Get Anybody Feeling Positive In A Hurry One of the reasons we keep ourselves from starting conversations with people is we don’t know what to say. Even if we have a couple of openers, carrying on the conversation is difficult. As soon as we hit one of those uncomfortable silences, both parties start […]
How To Kill Social Anxiety
Everybody’s Got It There are many truths about humans and human nature. Here are two: All people have social anxiety. All people would like to have less social anxiety. Consider this a given. Many people would like to go out and meet people, but they say, “Yeah, but I have social anxiety!” Unfortunately, some people […]
Paradox Of Achievement
Four Minute Mile This is a common story that is told in many forms. It’s commonly uses as a self-help metaphor. An “if you believe it, then you can achieve it,” metaphor. These types of metaphors are used to combat the normal human, “I won’t believe it until I see it” response. Roger Bannister […]
How To Start And Maintain A Conversation With Anybody
Why Social Anxiety Exists Social skills are coveted by many, but they are also the most difficult to practice. This is the problem that keeps many of us from actively improving our social skills. Most of us don’t improve our skills to begin with, since practicing is pretty boring. Many people would love to play […]
How To Develop Presence
Frame And Presence – Same Or Different? If somebody has a strong presence, it’s generally meant to be a good thing. The idea of presence isn’t always associated with personality, or conversational skills. The idea of having a strong presence can be associated with somebody who just walks into a room. What Is Presence? […]
Paradox Of Frustration
Embrace Your Anger Nobody likes frustration. We do everything we can to avoid frustration. Lots of advertisements are specifically allude that if we buy the product, our frustrations will be a thing of the past. In fact, one of the most common copywriting techniques is to pace the frustration of your target, expand it, and […]
Talisman
How To Create A Magic Talisman It’s common in many movies for the hero to have some type of magic object that helps him or her kill the bad guy. Harry Potter had his wand, Luke and all the other Jedi’s have their light saber, Lancelot had the sword from the stone. In this post […]
Might Makes Right
Survival Of The Fittest Once upon a time there was no life on Earth. Then something happened (aliens, meteor, lightning, hand of God, etc.) and there was a life form. Maybe a bunch. But they were very simple. They needed to eat, or get some kind of energy from their environment. And for some weird […]