The Guy In Charge Said So One of the go-to ways for most of us silly humans to figure out what’s what is to see what somebody in charge says. Study after study shows this. They put ten people in a room, and dump in an unexpected and complicated task. Time after time, people will […]
Surefire Conversational Skills
How To Get Anybody Feeling Positive In A Hurry One of the reasons we keep ourselves from starting conversations with people is we don’t know what to say. Even if we have a couple of openers, carrying on the conversation is difficult. As soon as we hit one of those uncomfortable silences, both parties start […]
Paradox Of Achievement
Four Minute Mile This is a common story that is told in many forms. It’s commonly uses as a self-help metaphor. An “if you believe it, then you can achieve it,” metaphor. These types of metaphors are used to combat the normal human, “I won’t believe it until I see it” response. Roger Bannister […]
How To Start And Maintain A Conversation With Anybody
Why Social Anxiety Exists Social skills are coveted by many, but they are also the most difficult to practice. This is the problem that keeps many of us from actively improving our social skills. Most of us don’t improve our skills to begin with, since practicing is pretty boring. Many people would love to play […]
Equilibrium Paradox
How Much Do You Need? Most of us have a curious belief about some big thing that we want. This can either be a thing, a certain amount of money, or even a long range goal. The belief that we hold about this is that once we get that “thing,” whatever it happens to be, […]
Paradox Of Frustration
Embrace Your Anger Nobody likes frustration. We do everything we can to avoid frustration. Lots of advertisements are specifically allude that if we buy the product, our frustrations will be a thing of the past. In fact, one of the most common copywriting techniques is to pace the frustration of your target, expand it, and […]
Trade Theory
Exchange Is Everywhere A good model through which to view the human experience is that of trade. As we’ll explore in this post, trade is everywhere. Sometimes partly conscious, sometimes completely subconscious. Sometimes alone, sometimes with others. But we humans are always trading. Basic Human Description One way to describe humans as having unlimited […]
Trial and Error
Modeling Success Is Impossible One of the cornerstones of NLP is modeling. In fact, the entirety of NLP was created through modeling. The linguistic-persuasion aspect was modeled from the top therapists at the time. NLP if often referred to as the “study of excellence.” Which means they find people doing excellent things, copy them, and […]
Should vs Is
The Battle Of Thought Control As humans, one of the things we love to do is come up with ideas about how others should be behaving. People shouldn’t text and drive. People should say thank you. People shouldn’t watch TV past ten PM. Kids should do their homework. Parents should pay more attention to their […]
Supply and Demand
Secrets Of The Global Brain These two words, supply and demand, seem very simple. They are known and supposedly understood by virtually anybody. They are ubiquitous, and if you know the words, but are a bit sketchy on the concepts, then you will fully understand them by the end of this post. Despite their simplicity, […]